Tonight was my first experience with a group of girls ganging up on Thea and making fun of her. It was over a cool glow-in-the-dark skeleton hoodie that I got at a Target after-Halloween sale, which she'll probably never wear again. It's adorable, and I wish it was made in my size. Not quite as girlie as this t-shirt I got her last year, but cute in the same way.
Though Thea was temporarily crushed, the ringleader is a good kid who apologized on her own later. Until then, I fluttered around not knowing what to say or do, and ended up giving Thea and Lila (who also got teased for something unrelated earlier) each 25 cents just for being them.
The hardest part is, I know it's only going to get worse. And, as a friend said, if I'm going to handle hurt feelings by doling out cash, I'd better win the lottery.
Saturday, November 10, 2007
Little girls are mean
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I could cry. I know what you mean. My kindergarten girl just started taking the bus and there are two little girls that are the best of friends and make little room for her. It's getting better but it was so painful to watch her little face in the beginning.
Yeah, it totally sucked and made me weepy. You know, eventually our own sweet girls will do the same thing to some other kid. I'm not sure which I dread more.
I know, you want them to stay innocent and sweet. Please don't be "that" girl.
Well, that just sucks. Before reading the post, I was thinking, "What a cool shirt! Now that kid knows how to dress."
What were the other little beeyotches wearing? Glittery ho'dog Bratz shirts?
I'm sorry. It's sucky and I never know what to do in those situations aside from giving the little punks the stink eye.
Aw, I'm sorry that Thea got picked on by some mean ol' girls. But yeah, if you hand out money every time you will be taking on another job pretty soon! lol
poor thea! mean girls suck.
i understand completely. it gets harder and harder as they get older, too, because there's a point where you simply can't step in. all you can do is support your kid and try to offer opportunities on how you might handle such situations. i am delighted that BC is doing this program called "girls on the run." yes, she's training for a 5k; but they also delve into areas such as bullying, teasing, etc.
because girls, as we all know, can really be mean :(
boys are pretty good at being mean too. i'm sure there are subtle differences in the kind of "mean", but humans in general can just be so mean, kids and adults alike. at least kids have a good excuse, they're still developing and learning.
I tell you, little girls are the meanest. Why? I just don't get it sometimes.
I need to send Thea 25 cents as well. :)
This post made me cry (I'm three weeks postpartum). I have been thinking about this issue a LOT lately, and dreading the first time it happens to my little girl. She seems so emotionally vulnerable since we brought our new baby home from the hospital - I've been avoiding taking her out places where she might run into other kids. Completely futile and stupid, I realize. Cash is a much better approach.
Oh, the shirt is adorable!
I know it is horribly un-PC of me, but this kind of feminine cruelty often makes me glad that M is a boy. I have vivid memories of how catty and nasty even very young girls can be to one another. Sigh.
Thanks, gang! I was hesitant about posting about this, though I'm not sure why. I guess because it made me feel sad and vulnerable, two states that I try not to show in public. So thanks for the support!
handing out money is probably better than what I want to do - hand out knuckle sandwiches! The teacher in me can get vicious right back, I'm sorry to say. I've embarrassed my children a time or two, reading the "teasers" the riot act. Bug is only four - I better get ready to control myself, huh?
I understand the impulse, but these were good kids, really, and the main one apologized on her own later. I don't think she even meant to be mean; she just got caught up in the moment. But it would have been much less upsetting if there were a bad guy here.
Kids are so rude. :(
Declan refuses to wear his Green Day shirt to school because several kids made fun of him because it wasn't actually green (the color) day. I tried to explain to him what losers the kids where but he didn't get it either since he really hasn't ever listened to Green Day himself either, ha!
Why oh why are girls so mean to each other? It doesn't seem to matter if they are 5 or 35, it still happens.
I have taken a vow (mentally) to be nice, open, and brutally honest to all girls. Know what I found? After my explaination of why I Hate Girls, I find they Hate Girls for the same reasons. Then I instantly gain another friend.
Ironic
I've been so blessed in a way because my daughter, who is now 9, has cognitive issues which make her unaware if someone is being mean. "Blessed" because she's been spared to-date. And the school she goes to is totally no-nonsense about dealing with any issues. She's safe until August of 2009, when my sweet, happy, friendly, outgoing little girl goes off to middle school.
Please tell me how to send you more quarters!
They are mean -- she's such a BEAUTIFUL child. I'm sure she knows that -- and then she's hit with this awful backlash with girls that don't know the meaning of decency.
Believe it or not, I have boys, and we go through this too. I thought for sure, by having boys, I would miss all this. But, sadly, boys are mean too.
Hugs.
Kelly, in a state of panic, a quarter will not hurt you. It's when the girls ask for $25 that you will need to worry. My son is 11, and is in middle school. I can't IMAGINE going through that again. Good Luck!!
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